LifeSightsSound

One thing I took out of Kings Assembly, a church I attended for years in Portharcourt, Nigeria, is a phrase the pastor always says “Life is choice driven; you live and die by the choices you make”. That phrase has stayed with me for the longest time. I never take choices for granted and the act of not making a choice is a choice in itself. At the start of 2022, I made a decision that led to a choice that is radically changing my life and it is not for the faint hearted.

I spoke to my partner Deji at the end of 2021 that I wanted to change my career path, I wanted to be in academia (first decision). He could not get it, he looked at me and said, you have a successful marketing career, I would definitely support your choice (that is who he is, my number one supporter) he may not understand why but he is there 100 percent. The decision of going into academia led to the choice I had to make, academia in Nigeria or outside Nigeria. I started doing my research, I knew he would not leave Nigeria permanently so I had to put him into my plan and I ended up choosing the UK (A choice). This choice meant I would be uprooting my family, this choice actually had branches, emotional, mental, physical and ofcos monetary. Long story short , my journey to academia has started and boy has it been a rollercoaster but that is not the story for the day.

I have always wanted to go into academia so it was an easy decision to make, Yes I prayed, I committed it in God’s hand and I was at ease, even when offers kept pouring in like crazy for roles I would have jumped hands and legs at, I stayed the course and was focused. I didn’t know that I needed to fight mentally for the choice I made.

The last 4 months have been so mentally tasking, I have been stretched, pulled emotionally, physically and mentally to a point where I started asking myself if I made the right decision, what if I was wrong? I wanted to run back to my comfort zone. I reminded myself that life is choice driven, we live and die by the choices we make. I made a choice and God will not give me what I cannot handle.

You may be like me, made a decision that have led to a series of choices in your life, the wheels keep turning and it feels like you are not in control, it is pulling you on all sides and you ask yourself questions, choices are not for the faint-hearted. Stay the course, it may look difficult at first but it gets better with time. It’s like an addiction, addicted to a particular way of doing things, now out of your comfort zone, you are struggling to adapt, then comes the pressure. It may not be straightforward but trust the process, it may seem like it is crushing you, breathe, exhale and trust the process, you will be fine (note to self).