LifeSightsSound

In a class full of people or a meeting, a question has been asked, I know the answer, I have answered the question in my head but something is preventing me from saying it out loud, what if I get it wrong? People will laugh at me, and so I whisper the answer to someone close to me and the person gets all the applause. Story of my life 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭

The excuse is ‘I am shy’  or “what if I am rejected”  from one shy person to another shyness sometimes produces mental walls…

Sometimes we need to recognise that being shy builds up a mental wall blocking us from trying out new things, stepping out of our comfort zone and achieving great feats in our lifetime..

Anytime I am in a gathering with people I consciously tear down the walls, by being the first to say hello, warm myself to the surroundings, find something that connects with me and it has helped me a lot…

My trip to Liverpool was ecstatic and at the same time frightening, on the train I told myself, okay you have done it, ventured out on your own so what next???

Google is your friend… sights and sound of Liverpool, there I saw a combo ferry cruise and bus tour of the city for a ridiculous amount… I bought the voucher.

I got to Liverpool lime street and I smiled, “Charity you did it” guess what? I was the only black person on the train from Manchester… I decided to walk to the Pier head where the ferry ride was… ( Not afraid of getting lost)

On the cruise I was the only black person, on the bus tour I was the only black person….

There is so much pressure and underlying racism but if we continue to stay in doors or working every hour on the hour how do we want to overcome it???? (Story for another day), how do we want to interact and get the learnings 

I learnt that the company that built the great Titanic ship is a Liverpool company and the Titanic ship was registered in Liverpool by White Star line and built in Belfast… 

Yes I was the only black and that made me far more conscious and then I built mental walls cos I could see eyes staring at me, oh shit not again, I looked around me to see if there was something I could connect to break the walls, then I saw them, cute twin girls, I asked their names, and we had a conversation throughout my ferry ride…

Mental walls we build by ourselves to shut out pain or rejection etc.. it could be anything you use as a defence but most times it hinders moving forward. The best way is to acknowledge when you have built a mental wall, check youself when you say no to something or it cannot be done, are you building a mental wall????

I break down my walls everyday so I can move forward,you should try it too, be free to ask questions in a gathering, make a grammatical mistake, you will be corrected, don’t use “shyness” as a shield…

Yours sincerely 

CIA

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River Mersey